The Secrets of Sayonara
By Matthew Coslett
On October 5, 2015
Probably the first Japanese word that most people learn is さようなら (Often written さよなら). Because of most visitors’ familiarity with the word, it is easy to imagine that it is a multi-purpose farewell suitable for all occasions. The only problem is that, like most words you learn in a textbook, when you actually use it in a real interaction, さようなら is often used differently to how most people would expect.
The problem is that さようなら has a hidden meaning that the departure will be for a long time or possibly even final. Add to that the fact that this word is towards the formal end of the spectrum and is it is to see how it could be inappropriate or even offensive in a number of situations. Expect to get into a fight if you use さようなら with a new girlfriend/ boyfriend, for example!
Instead, in most casual situations またね or じゃあね are more appropriate. The ね-ending on both of these words is a cute way to suggest that you expect the listener will agree with you. Therefore またね could be understood as meaning ‘See you later, right?’ You can even use both together to create じゃあ、またね.
また is particularly interesting as it can be combined with a defined time period to mean ‘See you in ~’s time’. Therefore, また
Of course, you may not know exactly when you will meet the listener next, so some people simply use the all-purpose また あとで (see you later) to cover this. If you are talking to someone that you go to bars or clubs with, you can also use また
While またあとで is appropriate for talking to someone you will meet later, the phrase is very casual and so isn’t good for all situations. At your office or school, you will instead find that
The common reply to 行って来ます is 行ってらっしゃい. This phrase consists the same 行く-stem, but this time instead of 来る, the ending is the shortened form of the verb いらっしゃる (An honorific verb meaning come/ be somewhere). Therefore this phrase could be understood as meaning ‘Do go and come back/ be here later’.
For longer periods of time, such as when someone is going on a trip, you will often use
With Japan absorbing influences from other countries, it is not surprising that a lot of foreign goodbyes have made their way into Japanese. On the phone especially young women are very fond of finishing their conversations with the loanword バイバイ (bye-bye). Similarly, グッバイ, グッドバイ (two versions of the word goodbye) and シーヤ (see ya) have made their way into Japanese.
Of course, with Japanese culture being constantly reinvented by artistic people, it is not surprising that Manga artists seem to enjoy creating original words and ideas all the time. If you want to make your friends laugh hysterically, use あばよ, バイナラ and ばいちゃ in a real world conversation, as these forms are usually only found in manga. As a joke, I used バイナラ in an email and the reply was simply ‘本当にダサい (笑)’ (That is seriously lame, lol).
With some many variations on a simple idea out there, it is not surprising that most regions in Japan have their own variation of goodbye. In the downtown Kansai-area where I live, elderly people use local terms like ほな また (Anyway, see you later) or さいなら (Goodbye). This can be a great way to learn more about your local area.
Wherever you are, listen carefully to the people speaking around you and see if you can pick out some of the local words used for parting company. Even if you can’t use them because of your age or status, it will still be a fascinating piece in solving the language puzzle.